This is an individual decision and there is no ‘right’ answer. Many people are successful in making direct contact themselves. However our research indicates that most people prefer to be approached by a mediator as it gives them time to consider their response and discuss it with a neutral person. If they do not want contact a mediator is usually in a better position to request some information.
Adoption Jigsaw’s mediator will conduct a lengthy interview with you (in person or by phone) and discuss your wishes in relation to contact and some of the issues that can arise in reunion. We conduct a similar interview with the found person, thus helping them to understand how adoption may have impacted on you.
For more information, download our brochure Using a Mediator.